Monday

How Do We Measure Love?


It is often asked: How do we measure love? It’s simple really. We measure love by action and or lack of action. Love is an action word and no matter how much someone tells you they love you if their actions don’t live up to what they are telling you then you shouldn’t believe them for a minute! Love is more than a feeling. That feeling leads us to action just as that lack of feeling will lead us on non-action.

Too often we forget that love is an action word. We get all caught up in our need and desire for it that we look for it in the strangest places. It is such a basic human need that we will often go to great lengths to acquire it.

Many of us have no clue as to how to go about measuring love to determine if someone really loves us or not. The great news or possibly not so great depending on how you look at it is that there is a way to measure love. Measure the action and inaction, taking place in the relationship. Measure the giving and the taking. Measure what they are doing for you and because of you. It is there you can measure it and you can determine the value of your relationship through that measurement.

Sometimes it’s difficult to face the cold hard facts of reality. I think that is the most painful side of love. To learn and admit to yourself that the love is not there can be excruciating. However, the only way to find real love is to let go of faulty love.

We must be honest with ourselves if we are to move forward in our lives. If we want happiness we must find the courage to be honest with ourselves. Sometimes this little task is the most difficult task of all…

21 comments:

Helen Burton said...

Hi Desiree:

I like your concept of how to measure love. We should also consider if we are being loving to ourselves. Helen

wornoutwoman said...

To me the big measure is how much we love when we're angry at the object of our desire. How much do we still do to show our affection when we really don't feel it. How many times can we put their feelings first to show them our unconditional love. How can we teach our children to love if we can set that example?

Dust-bunny said...

This is so true. My 18 year old daughter is currently letting go of a "faulty" love, and it has been difficult. Too much unnecessary drama for a young girl.

I hope all is well with you. I hadn't blogged in about six months, but I put up a post tonight. Keep in touch!

Kredit ohne Schufa said...

I think love is unmeasurable.Love is like a heaven.

Betty said...

You're right on the money. Talk is cheap, especially when it comes to love. I remember how struck I was the first time I heard that love is a verb. What a concept! And it's true. Actions are the unit of measure.

Hugs,
Betty

rob gruber said...

good stuff!

wornoutwoman said...

Great post on love. Be the change...you may want to check this contest out at: http://blessed1.wordpress.com/2008/06/22/faithful-friday-contest/
Hope you're having a good start to your week!

Fotobuch said...

Very touching!! It almost bring tears to my eyes.Great post!!

bokjae said...

Hi my dear friend, so good to see you back!!! As for me, to love means one is prepared to layd down their lives for the person you love! This laying down includes our rights and demands for the good of the other! Thanks for sharing with us your thoughts on this.

Helen Burton said...

I have found that true love is when you love yourself and treat You with kindness. When you love yourself you won't desparately need love from others. Helen

bokjae said...

Hello desiree! one way to show love is on my post today! I've something for you at my place, come get it! Thanks!

bokjae said...

One of the yard-stick for me is how much time that person is willing to spend it on you! Even in our busyness, we do find time to be with the ones we love no matter how long or short it is!

Dust-bunny said...

Hi Desiree,

Very poignant post, and very true.

I hope all is well with you and your family. I've been thinking about you!

Take good care,
Lisa

Anonymous said...

yes, you are exactly right.we must all let go of the relationships that are faulty.it is very difficult to forget the barrier that this person had me carry for two years.we all need to remember that we all have feelings and some of us are not as strong as they think we might be.GOD created us all differently.he is who gives me strength and i thank him for each day he gives to me and my family. thank you very much for the strong message and we all have to accept the truth.

bokjae said...

Hello dear, are you doing ok? Its been quite sometime now!!! Cheers!

Liara Covert said...

Another question would be, why would you feel compelled to measure love? Some people would reply that they wish to measure something when they feel a lack or absence of it. This evokes insecurity, rejection and fear. You might also ask why you should care if you measure love at all? When you are aware you sense all you need, then there is no questioning, only unconditional acceptance.

Corinne Rodrigues said...

Desiree - Love your blog. Am blogrolling you...
Corinne

waitress said...

If we want to change the world, we must start with ourselves. Thanks for the insperation.

waitress said...

Ive heard that if you want to change the world, you must first start with yourself. I think thats good advice so im passing it on. Thanks for this blog. It is great!!!!

Elizabet said...

As fate has it I had a conversation with my brother earlier about this very subject. His Schizophrenic condition leaves him confused regarding others' deeds, words and actions, due to his sensitivity
We decided that to be honest and loving firstly, one needed to love oneself. It's only by loving oneself that one can begin to emit love
I personally believe that any relationships that are developed throughout our lives have to be based on love to allow continuity. The cosmic law of attraction prevails. We give out and we receive in equal measures

Anonymous said...

I like your ideas of love... its a refreshing point of view and something more people in the world need to know about